This is the section where I have to honour the existing home more than I honour the new build.
The most important thing about our current house is not in the house. It is the lot. It is pie-shaped, wider at the back than at the front, and it opens onto a wooded greenspace with a trail running through it. There is a park directly behind the house. When our kids were small, the yard was where they learned to ride bikes, and the park was where we walked to before dinner, and the trail was where my partner and I went on evenings when we needed five quiet minutes. No new-build sales centre, in 2010 or 2026, could have handed me that. You don't get to pick a lot like that from a site plan. You stumble onto it, or you admire it from the street for years, and then one day it comes up for sale.
The new build gave us every interior finish we wanted. Tile, floors, kitchen, paint, bathrooms — all chosen, all ours. We took the lot the builder assigned us, which was a perfectly good lot, but an ordinary one; our backyard looked at other backyards. That's the deal with a new subdivision. The lots are rational. They are not, typically, remarkable.
The existing home reversed the bargain exactly. The lot is the reason we bought the house. The interior is the compromise. I love the layout — the basement is enormous and finished, the kitchen is where the family actually lives, the sightlines to the greenspace make the back half of the house feel bigger than it is. But the flooring is not the flooring I would have chosen, the kitchen finishes are not my finishes, and the bathrooms are someone else's taste. We have kept almost all of it because it works, and because every time I think about what a renovation would cost and what it would disrupt, I think about the trail, and I go for a walk instead. (If you're thinking about renovating yourself, Homeowner.ca's piece on home upgrades that actually hurt your resale value is worth reading before you start swinging hammers; some of the most tempting changes are the ones to postpone.)
Neither compromise is the wrong one. They are simply different compromises, and the one that is right for you depends on which one you would rather live inside.